So I posted that video the one which goes:
“ohhhh is your daughter simply so shy?”
“no, she is definitely simply actually considerate about when she decides to talk”
… and I perceive individuals who made the argument that being shy isn’t dangerous (I agree, it isn’t all the time) however it’s OFTEN utilized in a unfavorable approach (ask actually any introvert and they’ll have so many examples of occasions they’ve felt dangerous when being known as shy…*I do know not all of them however you get what I’m saying..) I simply assume it’s so pointless to put these labels on youngsters earlier than they’ve even absolutely developed.. I imply so many youngsters will naturally develop out of it and a few will work with their dad and mom to know it higher however both approach it simply looks like one thing we must be extra considerate about how we are saying that and once we say it.
Individuals who act shy typically are very considerate and observant people who’ve numerous compassion. It’s really such a cool trait and I feel there are numerous perks from being quiet. I’ve discovered so many perks to being quiet and compassionate within the work place too.
I used to lack confidence as a result of I knew I used to be quiet and likewise felt like I wasn’t sensible sufficient to be speaking to sure individuals. I all the time felt a bit foolish speaking to a CEO who graduated from Harvard .. having by no means graduated faculty myself. I had beforehand been given the recommendation “simply act assured and faux to know no matter they’re speaking about and you will discover out after!” I discovered that to be horrible recommendation for myself .. I’d get WAY too deep in conversations I do know nothing about after which appear like an fool. I began saying “oh I’m not acquainted with that time period are you able to please clarify?” or just “I don’t know what you imply by that” and I discovered that the individuals I used to be speaking to additionally didn’t know issues that I KNEW. As soon as I stated I don’t know in addition they felt snug saying it. I felt insecure not understanding their fancy enterprise phrases however I knew extra about influencers, advertising and marketing, hair, and constructing a group. These are the issues I thrive doing as a result of I LOVE doing them. I’m good at them and never everyone seems to be so I began to really feel assured understanding it’s okay to say “I don’t know” as a result of we aren’t all meant to know all the pieces. I additionally assume extra of somebody once they don’t faux to be a know all of it – as a result of that’s…annoying. Be fast to ask for clarification and allow them to see how a lot you like to hear and study. I used to be not too long ago speaking to this unbelievable lady who has been a CEO of a number of large manufacturers.. I obtained so excited speaking to her and studying from her I obtained so within the zone asking questions. She stopped and informed me how a lot she cherished that I cherished to study and never faux to know all the pieces. To her it was refreshing. It felt good to listen to that and I feel simply being YOU will likely be refreshing to individuals. And if anybody makes you are feeling dumb for not understanding then actually don’t do enterprise with them anyway. I’ve zero time for doing enterprise with egotistical individuals who assume they’re higher than others as a result of they’ve X title or X revenue or X stage of schooling… and if saying I don’t know is a fast and straightforward strategy to see somebody’s true colours than extra the rationale to say it.
It’s a journey to get to the purpose of actually understanding your self, studying your physique’s queues, and understanding your patterns… so don’t really feel defeated if that feels daunting. I’m all the time going to be engaged on it and don’t assume anybody is each actually there in all points of life. All of us will all the time have our strengths and weaknesses and that’s okay. Love you guys!!!!!!!!! xoxoxo
